The busy under 30s guide to a life of minimal stress

Wrote this while thinking of listening to Never too much – Luther Vandross

 

If you don’t have a social life and probably don’t care to have one, this one’s for you.

 Here’s a quick checklist to help you figure out if this advice is for you.
1. You’re in your 20s and are under 30 years old.
2. You’ve recently started your own business or planning to start your own business, or your job is so demanding and you suspect that your boss is Miranda Priestly.
3. You haven’t had time to veet, to get your laundry done, watch the latest scandal, how to get away with murder, and black list episodes (insert your favourite show).
4. You probably have to schedule a time to breath.
If you’ve made it this far, welcome, welcome friend. Let’s get started.
How do you stay calm, not stressed or pressured in this fast moving world? I am not an expert in how to de-stress and my methods are not scientifically backed but I have found these small things to be very helpful and I thought I would share these with you.
1. Do it well or don’t do it at all.
It is always THAT serious and with that approach you won’t be very comme ci, comme ça, (so-so) aka lukewarm about your duties. You’ll be exceptional. This will help you avoid unnecessary mood swings that are a result from being told your work is mediocre. So many times I have been told that I didn’t execute my task effectively which would annoy the day lights out of me but my boss was right. When I got tired of mentally rolling my eyes and made a decision to get my work life together, I began to see the results that came from being meticulous.
Mediocrity is what you should fear!
2. Forgetful Freddie.
If you’re as forgetful as I am. Please pray for your brain. In addition to prayer, use your phone. If your phone has a reminders list, utilise it. Set an alarm for each thing you have to do and this will help to minimise how much you forget. Plus you get to check off all that you got done. doesn’t that sound like fun?
3. Idea bubbles. 
Whenever an idea pops in your head, write it down. Do not tell yourself that you’ll remember it later and think about it then because chances are you won’t remember. Write those ideas as they come and then think about their feasibility later.
4. Acknowledge your awesomeness. 
For the past two weeks (I think) I have been doing this thing in front of my dressing mirror where I tell myself what God says about me. I speak bold and outrageous statements over myself because I don’t have to wait for someone to tell me I’m awesome. My friend, if you’re waiting for validation, you’re going to wait till your bones turn to ash.
These are few of the things I say about me and their applicability is universal.
  • I am beautiful with God’s beauty
  • I am kind
  • I am forgiven
  • I am loved
  • I am a smart business woman
  • I am hardworking

What will you say to yourself about yourself?

5. Mistakes and failure  are not the end of the world.
You have to learn or to start cutting yourself some slack once in a while. We are not God, therefore *spoiler alert* we are imperfect.
When we make a mistake or when we fail, it doesn’t mean that the sun won’t shine tomorrow, or that you will never eat again? Every new day gives us the opportunity to start afresh. Don’t wait for a new year. Okay?
6. Bad days and good days.
When you have a good day, plan to treat someone, and when you have a bad day, plan to treat yourself. I don’t believe people who say they are generous yet they fail to be generous to themselves. Find solace in this,
Everything passes, not only happiness but sadness too
7. Be selfish with your time in a generous way.
What does that even mean?
You’re a busy young woman or man, you don’t want to have your time wasted by things that are not building you, your work or your relationships. Whatever you water will grow, make sure you’re not wasting your scarce water (read as time) on relationships or activities that don’t add value to you.
On the generous side of time, make sure you’re also adding value to the people in your life, your job, and your community.
Live with urgency, we don’t have all the time in the world!
8. Sleep
Once in a while when you feel extremely exhausted, use that nice bed of yours be it at 2pm in the afternoon. It’s okay to sleep. In order to work better, rest is also essential.
9. Listen
I would have avoided so many mistakes had I just listened to my boss mama. Listen to your boss and try to understand where they are coming from. In understanding them, we create an environment to also be understood and in effect that will limit conflict.
10. Learning never stops
The day you find yourself thinking that you know it all, you should fear for yourself. Don’t stop learning. Be curious to know and know and know some more about your trade. Look for stuff that inspires you, keep reinventing your brand, yourself, until you find what works then make what works even better. Keep learning for your sake more than anyone else’s really.

I hope you found this helpful. Let’s keep on building empires (whatever the latest hiphop word is for that), trust God with your vision, and know that even when you feel like giving up, the reward will be worth the sacrifices you have had to endure.

 

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10 Comments
  1. Thank you very much Evelyn! I really really needed to read something like this! Hope to apply it starting today! Oh may God Bless you!

    1. Thank you Chantal for reading, do tell me how it works out for you. yeah? I hope it will be just as effective. We can do it. 🙂 X God bless you too honey.

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